Category: Wedding Planning Tips by Vicki

Money Poems for Weddings – how to ask without offending

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Asking for money instead of gifts at your wedding can be a bit tricky but here are some great money poems for weddings that kindly ask your guests not to buy gifts but to rather give you gift vouchers or money. I have chosen a few to help you with the task.

1) More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,

Our home has been made with love and care,

Most things we need we’ve already got,

And in out home we can’t fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,

(But only if you wish to participate),

A gift of money is placed in the well,

Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!

Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,

We can look back and say it was thanks to you!

And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,

That one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Please don’t be offended at this type of request,

As our day is complete having you as our guest.


2)Friends, as you are well aware we already have most items needed to -set up house’.

This is the reason for us choosing a wedding wishing well.

At the reception there will be a wishing well in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution.

This will be a great way for us to pool together and buy ourselves something quite luxurious, or to make our honeymoon even better.


3)Now we are to be Mr & Mrs

We don’t need a wedding list of dishes

We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves

We require a house for which we have to save.

If you would like to give us a gift,

A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift

We like to think of it as our -wishing well’

Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.


4)The love of family and friends

Bring happiness that never ends

Each one of you as guests we’ll treasure

You’ll fill our day with so much pleasure

While wedding presents are so nice

Your presence really will suffice

But if a gift is on your mind

Your contribution would be kind

We have a fund, please see below

Each welcome gift will help it grow

But the greatest gift is that you’ll say

You’d love to share our wedding day


5)We haven’t got a gift list, for all of you to see,

Because as you all know we never can agree!

But if you’d like to help us, start our married life,

cash or gift vouchers, would save a lot of strife


Budget – always the hardest part of a wedding!

I’m finding more and more couples are under estimating what things actually cost and what to expect from wedding suppliers. For instance if you go out to a family restaurant and have a pretty standard 3 course meal you are looking at R200 a head but then you can’t expect a spectacular wedding meal for R150.00 a person that’s not being realistic.

So here is a quick glance at what things are expected to cost with a rough minimum and maximum. Then you can decide where to spend more or less on the” important/ must have items” and then put items in your “fun/ would love to have” bucket for if you have cash left in your budget you can indulge a little it is after all your wedding day. My tip for the day don’t be afraid to shop around for prices, but bear in mind you get what you paid for. If it’s too good to be true it probably is.

I say for an average wedding it’s R1000.00 per guest in total, that’s a good starting point. If you want bigger and fancier then it’s about R2 000.00 – R4 000.00 per person.

Item Below Average Average Over the Top Tip
Venue R3000.00 R10 000.00 – R15 000.00 R75 000.00 for the weekend Note what each venue includes and excludes as well as overtime charges and when that over time starts from.
Menu cost per person R150.00 R250.00 – R350.00 R495.00 PLUS Costs dependant on menu, number of courses. Choose what you would eat not what’s fashionable your guests will thank you.
Bar bill per person R15.00 R60.00 – R70.00 R150.00 This is a luxury item, have some items on your tab but put a limit to avoid over spending.
Wedding Planner R8 000.00 R15 000.00 – R20 000.00 R30 000.00 plus The perfect way to get the best on your wedding day and they can save you money.
Décor R5 000.00 R10 000.00 – R15 000.00 R30 000.00 plus Use reliable professionals they will guide you on how best to save money and get the look and feel you desire.
Flowers R4 500.00 R6 000.00 – R12 000.00 R25 000.00 plus Use in season flowers to get more for less. And be creative with fynbos & greenery as they may be cheaper.
Photographer R5 000.00 R10 000.00 – R12 000.00 R25 000.00 – R35 000.00 IMPORTANT decision as the photos are the only things you have left after the day and it’s very personal choice
Videographer R3 000.00 R6 000.00 R12 000.00 A very important keepsake, as you don’t remember much of your day as it goes by too quickly!
Dress R3 000.00 R6 000.00 – R12 00.00 R20 000.00 Plus Hunt for bargains in winter at the sales
Marriage officiator Or Minister R1 000.00 R1 500.00 – R3 000.00 R5 000.00 Most ask for a donation so it’s up to you.
Cake R1 500.00 R3 000.00 R6 0000.00 Dependant on number of tiers & flavours
Stationary R2 500.00 R4 000.00 R7 000.00
Live Music R3 000.00 R5 000.00 R10 000.00
DJ R3 500.00 R7 000.00 R9 000.00 Very Important to keep the party going don’t skimp here.
Lighting/ Draping R2 000.00 R6 000.00 – R10 000.00 R25 000.00 Only if your venue needs it or you desire a certain effect at night
Suite R750.00 R3 500.00 R5 000.00
Hair R1 000.00 R2 000.00 R3 000.00 For bride including colour & cut
Make up R1 000.00 R1 500.00 R2 500.00 For bride including trail
Nails R100.  00 R250.00 R400.00
Legal Matters R1 000.00 R1 500.00 R3 000.00
Guest favours R15.00 R20.00 R50.00 Per person, some see it as a luxury item.


Super 15 Rugby vs Your Wedding – how to be the win at a man’s game


Well its 24 days till the Super 15 Rugby starts. Yes please! Now some of you may be wondering why I am writing about rugby on a wedding blog. Besides that fact that I’m a passionate rugby supporter and can’t wait, in South Africa most men are too and very staunch supporters. Still saying so what? Well you will probably keep saying that till the day of your wedding on you are in the middle of your ceremony and some guys yells YES! Or at your reception the men seem to using the restrooms way more than the ladies. It’s because they are checking the score!

Now this may not affect you if you, your friends and family really don’t care about rugby but if they do, your guests will be very torn between being fully present at your wedding and seeing how their favourite rugby team is doing. For brides getting married in the first round of matches most men will be ok with missing those games so between the following dates 15 February – 29 June, but if your wedding is on the last couple of rounds of the tournament or a knock out day 5 July – 27 July, and Saturday 3 August which is the final, that maybe a problem. But not one that cannot be overcome with some easy planning.

For the first round of matches remind the guests on the invite to PVR the games – this will score you brownies point’s brides.

If someone doesn’t have PVR try organising a braai for everyone the next day at someone’s house and supply the drinks or eats – again major brownie points, and the party can continue the next day. Most guests will appreciate this as they will have made new friends and who doesn’t like an excuse to carrying on celebrating.

But if it’s a big match between rival teams then be smart you have a few options, organise your photo hour during the match but be back in time that your groom can catch the last 30 minutes your man will owe you many a foot rub.

But if the match is at 19H00, try get some speeches in before starters but arrange with the venue to screen the game during dinner and make dinner a relaxed affair so people can watch the game. Have your speeches straight after the game has finished and kick straight into the dancing so the party can begin.

But most importantly don’t forget to arrange comfy chat spots for those ladies who don’t want to watch rugby. Your lady guests will be grateful.

And if you feel that none of these are helpful then my last tip, get the schedule and don’t plan your wedding on match day!

Good luck to all the teams and couple’s getting married this year may all your dreams come true!!


Who is who in the wedding zoo – Wedding planner, coordinator or designer how do you choose?


Weddings have so many different terms for each part of the wedding you can get lost in bouquets, boutonnière’s, garters, cufflinks, bow ties, bolo ties, in laws, aisles, dresses, shoes etc. But there are professional people who can assist you in making sure this doesn’t happen but even the difference between who they are or what their roles are can be confusing. So my aim today is help those looking for a professional to give them a helping hand and those in the industry tired of saying yes I’m almost like Jennifer Lopez in the wedding planner but not quite. And the following professionals are very similar but differ depending on a couple’s needs.

Wedding Planner:

Is an individual who assists with planning and management of a client’s wedding by interviewing the couple to identify their needs and dreams for their wedding day. Wedding planners are often used by couples who work long hours and have little spare time available for sourcing and managing wedding venues and wedding suppliers. They can assist with budgets, a personalised planning check list; they will have access to reliable and professional wedding vendors. Have a rain plan or plan B’s for any logistical situation is a part of their portfolio. For a real life example of who a wedding planner is Precious Thamaga

Wedding Coordinator:

Is a person who doesn’t necessarily need to be involved in the entire planning process of the wedding but needs to attend the final venue meeting and the décor mock up in able to ensure that what you have planned is what is created and delivered on your wedding day. A coordinator is for couples who have managed to plan their wedding but on the day don’t want to spend the day running around and setting up their wedding and they don’t want their family & friends to worry either. Having a coordinator is the best way to ensure you will remain stress free on the day and enjoy it to the fullest and not worrying about what is happening in the background for the entire day while you and your guests celebrate the day away. For a real life example see of what a wedding coordinator can achieve

Wedding Designer:

It is a little more difficult to fully define as it’s a newish wedding profession. They are a wedding planner, coordinator and designer extraordinaire. As a company or individual they offer bespoke luxury wedding packages, who design the wedding around the essence of who you are as a couple. As creative geniuses every detailed aspect of the wedding is designed and created from scratch according to the latest trends and take your wedding above and beyond anything you or your guests expect or have experienced before. For real life examples visit Guy & Anton are shining examples of Wedding Designers.


Where’s you Heaven on Earth? Take a quick quiz to help you pick the perfect honeymoon destination!

This is a very nifty quiz I found in the Cosmo Bride I think it’s super easy and quick and may just save you from a nightmare honeymoon. Or maybe you have been on honeymoon already but curios to see what it would have said, take the quiz and let me know where you are headed? I’ve done it but you’ll have to wait for my answer, I’ll post it tomorrow on twitter @sapphirewedding.   1 What’s your idea of holiday bliss? A – The sparkling, sandy shores of a desert island, where your only neighbours are palm trees. B – A remote, we-discovered-it-first gem that’s packed with local colours, flavours and sounds. C – The jungle, a rock face or 20m below sea level. If Bear Grylls has been there, it’s on your list. D – A sun lounger, strategically positioned in striking distance of the coolest cocktail bar, a stylish boutique and your man.   2 Your dream accommodation is: A – A secluded beachfront resort where you can fall asleep listening to the waves. B – A one-of-a-kind thatched villa that makes you feel a million miles from home. C – Anywhere with a roof would make a change from the trusty tent you’re used to. D – A sexy boutique hotel with plenty of stars (and not just in its quality rating)   3 As a special treat, you’d love to splash out on: A – A sailing & sunbathing excursion on a super- luxurious crewed yacht. B – Horse riding and a moonlight beach barbecue for two. C – A four-wheel-drive safari to watch the sun set over the horizon D – Butler service, a private pool, a bottle of Champagne . . . Can you have all three?   4 The part you enjoy the most about going on holiday is: A – That “mmm” feeling when warm, silky-soft sand squeezes through your toes B – Being immersed in an exotic culture and scouring markets for bargain buys. C – Coming home with a travel story to beat last year’s daredevil adventure D – The rush of warm air as you step off the plane and the “wow” when you walk into your         suite.   5 You’re planning to spend your time: A – Sun-soaking, swimming, snorkelling and slipping back to your room. B – Heading off the beaten track to find a romantic spot to call your own. C – On the go. The more activities you can cram into two weeks, the merrier D – Keeping the region’s shops, bars and restaurants in business.   6 If money were no object, your trip of a lifetime would consist of: A – A tropical-island hop from one uninhabited hideaway to another B – A cultural & culinary tour across an entire continent C – A year backpacking around the globe D – Business class flights, a penthouse & a credit card with no limit.   Mostly A’s – Beach Bums A true bikini babe, you’re happiest looking radiant on a beach. After all, what’s not to love? Gorgeous views of the sea, the warmth of the sun on your skin, some serious people-watching and an excuse to eat ice-cream all day. The classic long haul love nests for honeymooners are the Caribbean (islands such as Anguilla, the Bahamas, Barbados, St Lucia & Grenada) and the Indian Ocean (Mauritius, the Maldives and the Seychelles). You can divide your time between starlight suppers, couples’ massages by the sea, swimming with dolphins and chartering a celeb-worthy yacht. For beachy bliss on your doorstep don’t forget Europe. The shores of the Greek islands, Cyprus and Sardinia combine the glamour of a far-flung paradise with all the charm of the Mediterranean.   Mostly B’s – Bohemians Renowned for your trend – setting style, you crave a truly unique honeymoon. Your dream destination is far from the madding crowd, with a five – star pad that perfectly reflects the ambience of the country it’s in. Bali, Thailand and Malaysia all offer just that, with lush surroundings, imaginative local dishes and intriguing cultures. In south-west India, Kerala has luxury resorts with real local flavour, while Morocco’s enchanting Arabic history shines through in its glamorous palaces, known as riads, where you can stay. If you avoid major tourist towns, Mexico is as intoxicating as it is beautiful and unspoilt.   Mostly C’s – Adventure We’re surprised you’ve managed to sit still long enough to read the answer! Your ideal honeymoon is a non-stop whirlwind from one white – knuckle activity to another. For escapades on every type of terrain – be it air, water, desert or jungle – Australia & New Zealand are the ultimate locations. An African safari is bound to impress, especially combined with a trip to Mount Kilimanjaro in Tanzania. For water sports pick Hawaii, Canada is a classic for skiing, or walk on the wild side with a close-to-nature experience in the Galapagos Islands, Belize or South America.   Mostly D’s – Glamazona Most over Posh, there’s a new style queen at the boarding gate. If there’s one thing you want from a honeymoon, it’s a taste of the finer things – and you’ll never have a better reason to swap no-frills for first class. Boutiques, beaches, boats – your fantasy destination mixes stylish city living with the relaxed vibe of a resort. You don’t need to travel far to achieve it: Europe is full of hip hideaways that ooze classic cool. Wow your way along the Cote d’ Azur, party in Monte Carlo, wine and dine on the Amalfi coast or luxuriate by Lake Como. Further afield, visit the A-list-endorsed island of Martha’s Vineyard or, if you’re happy swapping sand from city parks, hit every shopper’s mecca, New York.  

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