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Money Poems for Weddings – how to ask without offending

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Asking for money instead of gifts at your wedding can be a bit tricky but here are some great money poems for weddings that kindly ask your guests not to buy gifts but to rather give you gift vouchers or money. I have chosen a few to help you with the task.

1) More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,

Our home has been made with love and care,

Most things we need we’ve already got,

And in out home we can’t fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,

(But only if you wish to participate),

A gift of money is placed in the well,

Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!

Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,

We can look back and say it was thanks to you!

And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,

That one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Please don’t be offended at this type of request,

As our day is complete having you as our guest.


2)Friends, as you are well aware we already have most items needed to -set up house’.

This is the reason for us choosing a wedding wishing well.

At the reception there will be a wishing well in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution.

This will be a great way for us to pool together and buy ourselves something quite luxurious, or to make our honeymoon even better.


3)Now we are to be Mr & Mrs

We don’t need a wedding list of dishes

We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves

We require a house for which we have to save.

If you would like to give us a gift,

A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift

We like to think of it as our -wishing well’

Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.


4)The love of family and friends

Bring happiness that never ends

Each one of you as guests we’ll treasure

You’ll fill our day with so much pleasure

While wedding presents are so nice

Your presence really will suffice

But if a gift is on your mind

Your contribution would be kind

We have a fund, please see below

Each welcome gift will help it grow

But the greatest gift is that you’ll say

You’d love to share our wedding day


5)We haven’t got a gift list, for all of you to see,

Because as you all know we never can agree!

But if you’d like to help us, start our married life,

cash or gift vouchers, would save a lot of strife


Budget – always the hardest part of a wedding!

I’m finding more and more couples are under estimating what things actually cost and what to expect from wedding suppliers. For instance if you go out to a family restaurant and have a pretty standard 3 course meal you are looking at R200 a head but then you can’t expect a spectacular wedding meal for R150.00 a person that’s not being realistic.

So here is a quick glance at what things are expected to cost with a rough minimum and maximum. Then you can decide where to spend more or less on the” important/ must have items” and then put items in your “fun/ would love to have” bucket for if you have cash left in your budget you can indulge a little it is after all your wedding day. My tip for the day don’t be afraid to shop around for prices, but bear in mind you get what you paid for. If it’s too good to be true it probably is.

I say for an average wedding it’s R1000.00 per guest in total, that’s a good starting point. If you want bigger and fancier then it’s about R2 000.00 – R4 000.00 per person.

Item Below Average Average Over the Top Tip
Venue R3000.00 R10 000.00 – R15 000.00 R75 000.00 for the weekend Note what each venue includes and excludes as well as overtime charges and when that over time starts from.
Menu cost per person R150.00 R250.00 – R350.00 R495.00 PLUS Costs dependant on menu, number of courses. Choose what you would eat not what’s fashionable your guests will thank you.
Bar bill per person R15.00 R60.00 – R70.00 R150.00 This is a luxury item, have some items on your tab but put a limit to avoid over spending.
Wedding Planner R8 000.00 R15 000.00 – R20 000.00 R30 000.00 plus The perfect way to get the best on your wedding day and they can save you money.
Décor R5 000.00 R10 000.00 – R15 000.00 R30 000.00 plus Use reliable professionals they will guide you on how best to save money and get the look and feel you desire.
Flowers R4 500.00 R6 000.00 – R12 000.00 R25 000.00 plus Use in season flowers to get more for less. And be creative with fynbos & greenery as they may be cheaper.
Photographer R5 000.00 R10 000.00 – R12 000.00 R25 000.00 – R35 000.00 IMPORTANT decision as the photos are the only things you have left after the day and it’s very personal choice
Videographer R3 000.00 R6 000.00 R12 000.00 A very important keepsake, as you don’t remember much of your day as it goes by too quickly!
Dress R3 000.00 R6 000.00 – R12 00.00 R20 000.00 Plus Hunt for bargains in winter at the sales
Marriage officiator Or Minister R1 000.00 R1 500.00 – R3 000.00 R5 000.00 Most ask for a donation so it’s up to you.
Cake R1 500.00 R3 000.00 R6 0000.00 Dependant on number of tiers & flavours
Stationary R2 500.00 R4 000.00 R7 000.00
Live Music R3 000.00 R5 000.00 R10 000.00
DJ R3 500.00 R7 000.00 R9 000.00 Very Important to keep the party going don’t skimp here.
Lighting/ Draping R2 000.00 R6 000.00 – R10 000.00 R25 000.00 Only if your venue needs it or you desire a certain effect at night
Suite R750.00 R3 500.00 R5 000.00
Hair R1 000.00 R2 000.00 R3 000.00 For bride including colour & cut
Make up R1 000.00 R1 500.00 R2 500.00 For bride including trail
Nails R100.  00 R250.00 R400.00
Legal Matters R1 000.00 R1 500.00 R3 000.00
Guest favours R15.00 R20.00 R50.00 Per person, some see it as a luxury item.


Super 15 Rugby vs Your Wedding – how to be the win at a man’s game


Well its 24 days till the Super 15 Rugby starts. Yes please! Now some of you may be wondering why I am writing about rugby on a wedding blog. Besides that fact that I’m a passionate rugby supporter and can’t wait, in South Africa most men are too and very staunch supporters. Still saying so what? Well you will probably keep saying that till the day of your wedding on you are in the middle of your ceremony and some guys yells YES! Or at your reception the men seem to using the restrooms way more than the ladies. It’s because they are checking the score!

Now this may not affect you if you, your friends and family really don’t care about rugby but if they do, your guests will be very torn between being fully present at your wedding and seeing how their favourite rugby team is doing. For brides getting married in the first round of matches most men will be ok with missing those games so between the following dates 15 February – 29 June, but if your wedding is on the last couple of rounds of the tournament or a knock out day 5 July – 27 July, and Saturday 3 August which is the final, that maybe a problem. But not one that cannot be overcome with some easy planning.

For the first round of matches remind the guests on the invite to PVR the games – this will score you brownies point’s brides.

If someone doesn’t have PVR try organising a braai for everyone the next day at someone’s house and supply the drinks or eats – again major brownie points, and the party can continue the next day. Most guests will appreciate this as they will have made new friends and who doesn’t like an excuse to carrying on celebrating.

But if it’s a big match between rival teams then be smart you have a few options, organise your photo hour during the match but be back in time that your groom can catch the last 30 minutes your man will owe you many a foot rub.

But if the match is at 19H00, try get some speeches in before starters but arrange with the venue to screen the game during dinner and make dinner a relaxed affair so people can watch the game. Have your speeches straight after the game has finished and kick straight into the dancing so the party can begin.

But most importantly don’t forget to arrange comfy chat spots for those ladies who don’t want to watch rugby. Your lady guests will be grateful.

And if you feel that none of these are helpful then my last tip, get the schedule and don’t plan your wedding on match day!

Good luck to all the teams and couple’s getting married this year may all your dreams come true!!


Looking Back – our 12 favourite moments of 2012!

Welcome to 2013 we know it’s going to be an amazing year!!

So we thought before we rush off into this year we’d like to take a moment to look back at 2012 and our favourite moments from this interesting year. These are in no particular order and just for fun!

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Craig & Lesley’s Wedding


Lara & Carl’s Wedding


Jono & Roxy’s Wedding


Snow in Jozi


The Olympics

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ABIA Awards

ABIA-Award-Finalist_Decorator sap ABIA-Award-Finalist_Floral-Design sap ABIA-Award-Finalist_Function-Coordinator sap ABIA-Award-Finalist_Independent-Wedding-Planner sapLukas & Miriam’s Wedding


Pete & Carli’s Wedding


Mike & Tasha’s Wedding


Prepped by Sasha being featured in a UK Bridal magazine, Bride’s etc.


Steve’s 50th Party

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Please tell us what were you favourite 2012 moments?

Looking forward to making this years favourite 13 moments! Pray you all have a splendid year ahead!!


Social Media for Businesses – to do or die?

Today I spent the day with some very special people, learning, discussing and encouraging each other on how to use social media platforms to grow your business. To make it personal growing your trust relationship with your clients and your colleagues in your industry! It was interesting to see a gentleman arrived believing that social media is a waste of time and not business related but he came with an open mind and left deciding that social media is a new important tool to grow his clientele and business.

To spend time in a safe & comfortable space with people learning and bouncing ideas off each other and growing business to expand your exposure! It really was exciting to see others getting new ideas and excited to start a new journey of social growth for their business. The Oak Leaf Restaurant was the perfect setting with a fire-place, Wi-fi, fantastic coffee and delicious food to host an informal workshop.

I’m so exciting to get organising my next workshop so watch this space it will be on website what you should and shouldn’t do. But those who want to do the social media workshop and couldn’t make it let me know and I will organise one to suite those! Email me, Vicki

But here are some points to get you going.

  • Social Media etiquette is to treat others as you would be treated.
  • Once it is out there it can’t be taken back so be discerning about what you post.
  • Interaction is key, get to know your followers and get conversations going.
  • Content is key make sure it’s yours and unique. That all platforms show different angles of your business, it’s a space to be creative and informal so a bit of personality!
  • Have fun! No one does social things cause it’s boring!

Catch you all on Facebook!

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